…How to Avoid Getting Stuck in a Private Mortgage
If you’re considering—or already sitting in—a private mortgage, you’ve likely heard the term “exit strategy” tossed around. Maybe your mortgage agent mentioned it. Maybe your lawyer flagged it. Maybe you nodded and moved on without really knowing what it means.
Let me make it crystal clear: an exit strategy is not optional. It’s your parachute.
Private mortgages are short-term tools. They’re not built for comfort or longevity. And without a clear way out, they can turn from helpful to harmful faster than you think.
In this article, I’ll talk about:
Why it matters so much in private lending
What sounds like an exit strategy… but isn’t
What makes an exit strategy solid and lender-friendly
How you and your realtor can use this in the real world
What Is an Exit Strategy?
An exit strategy is your plan to pay off the private mortgage before it matures. It could involve:
- Refinancing with an A or B lender
- Selling the property
- Paying it off with savings or another verified source of funds
It’s the roadmap from “I need a private loan today” to “I’m back in a better mortgage tomorrow.”
Why It Matters So Much in Private Lending
Private mortgages are short, sharp, and expensive.
- Terms are usually 6–12 months.
- Rates can be 8%–12%+, often interest-only.
- Renewal fees are real and painful.
- If you default, enforcement can move quickly—including power of sale.
Without an exit strategy, you’re not just borrowing money—you’re gambling with your equity.
When You Absolutely Need an Exit Strategy
Every time you take out a private mortgage, you should have an exit strategy. But it’s especially crucial when:
- You’re borrowing at a high LTV (80–85%)
- You have a short runway (6-month term, quick renovation timeline)
- Your income or credit profile won’t support renewal
- You’re taking a second mortgage behind a first
- You’re dealing with construction, vacant property, or major renos
“That’s Not a Real Exit Strategy…”
Here are things people think are exit strategies—but aren’t:
“I’ll just sell the house… eventually.”
Selling is only a valid strategy if you have a clear plan:
- Realtor selected
- Timeline confirmed
- Market analysis done
Otherwise? It’s just a vague hope.
“I’ll refinance… once things settle down.”
Great—how will things settle down?
- Will your credit improve?
- Will your income stabilize?
- Will your debt ratios qualify you for a B lender?
If you can’t prove it, it’s not a strategy—it’s a wish list.
“I’m expecting an inheritance / settlement / business cash injection.”
Unless the money is already in transit, no lender will accept it as a reliable source of repayment.
“My business is growing—I’ll qualify soon.”
Love the optimism. But growth projections aren’t enough. Lenders want actual bank statements or tax returns to support your income.
“Crypto. Don’t worry about it.”
No comment.
I Lost My Job But Plan to Get Another
“I lost my job but plan to get another one” is not a viable exit strategy for a private mortgage—at least not on its own.
Let’s be real: hope is not a plan, and lenders don’t fund based on intentions. They fund based on verifiable, stable income and documented facts.
Why “Planning to Get a Job” Isn’t Enough
No Income = No Approval
Most lenders—especially alternative or “B” lenders who would typically be your exit from a private mortgage—need to see:
- Active, consistent income
- Recent paystubs or direct deposits
- A job letter or employment contract
- Time on the job (some require you to be out of probation)
Without that, your file won’t qualify. Period.
Private Mortgage Deadlines Are Rigid
Private mortgages are short-term—6 to 12 months on average. If you’re unemployed when your term ends and you haven’t lined up new financing:
- The lender may refuse renewal
- You may face fees, legal action, or power of sale if you can’t repay
- The cost of rolling over into another private mortgage could be brutal
Lenders Don’t Finance on “Plans”
Unless your plan includes a signed employment offer with a confirmed start date and salary, it’s not lender-acceptable.
How to Make It Closer to Viable
If you’re between jobs but you:
- Have a signed job offer with a start date and guaranteed income
- Are in a strong industry with steady employment prospects
- Have low debt or other assets
- Can prove that you’ll qualify for a refinance once you’re employed
Then a lender might work with you—but they’ll likely want to wait until you’ve started the job and passed probation.
Pro Tip: Plan Before You Sign
If you’re currently employed but worried about job loss during a private mortgage term:
- Build a backup plan now
- Secure the private mortgage for a longer term
- Work with your mortgage agent (like me!) to create multiple exit pathways
“Planning to get a job” is not an exit strategy—it’s wishful thinking.
But with the right guidance and a clear, documented plan, we can turn that wish into a strategy when the time is right.
As your mortgage agent, I’ll:
- Help you understand what lenders need to see
- Stress test your exit strategy
- Build backup plans (e.g., co-signers, liquid assets, longer terms)
- Time your refinance for when you actually qualify
Don’t go it alone. If you’re navigating job loss, we’ll find the safest path forward—together.
Would you like me to create a short client guide titled “Unemployed? What Lenders Need to See Before You Refinance”? It could be a great resource for those in transition.
What Makes a Good Exit Strategy?
To be viable, your exit strategy must be:
✔️ Time-bound
You have a target date that aligns with your private mortgage maturity.
✔️ Lender-aligned
The plan fits within the guidelines of a known B or A lender. For example, if you’re moving to an alt lender, we’ve confirmed your income type, property use, and LTV are eligible.
✔️ Documentable
You can show income trends, credit improvement, a near-finished renovation, or a signed listing agreement—something tangible.
✔️ Actionable
You’re already working the plan, not just talking about it. You’re not waiting for things to happen—you’re making them happen.
A Story from the Field
Let’s talk about Kyle and Jasmine. They were renovating their bungalow into a legal duplex. The bank said “no way” until the work was done, so they took a $150K private second mortgage behind their first.
Their exit plan?
- Finish the reno
- Legalize the suite
- Use the increased value and new rental income to refinance with an alternative lender
They stayed in contact with me throughout, sent photos, showed rental lease drafts, and when the final inspection passed—we were ready. We lined up the alt lender refinance, paid out the private second, and even reduced their monthly payments.
That’s what a good exit strategy looks like. It was planned, proactive, and proven.
How Realtors and Clients Can Use This in Practice
Realtors:
- If a deal includes a private mortgage, ask, “What’s your exit plan?”
- Help clients prep for a sale or refinance by thinking in advance: appraisals, renos, market timing.
Clients:
- Don’t sign on for a private loan unless you know exactly how you’ll get out of it.
- Ask your mortgage agent for a written timeline and exit options.
- Treat this like a temporary solution, not a forever plan.
Allen’s Final Thoughts
If you remember nothing else, remember this: “I’ll figure it out later” is not an exit strategy.
Private mortgages are tools, not homes. They’ll get you through a rough patch, but they’re not where you want to stay. You need a plan that gets you out—on time, on budget, and ideally into something far more affordable.
As your mortgage agent, I’m not just here to get you funded—I’m here to guide you out the other side. I’ll help you:
- Understand your private mortgage terms
- Build a realistic, lender-approved exit strategy
- Track your progress toward refinance or sale
- Support you in qualifying for a better mortgage
Whether you’re a homeowner, investor, or realtor trying to help your clients navigate private lending safely—I’m in your corner. Let’s make sure you don’t just get in—you also know how to get out.

